It’s been a fun ride, but I’ve retired from the hypo biz to focus on my other professions (writing novels is my new passion.)
What’s happened since last time, waaaay back in December?
- I wrote more blog posts and posted a YouTube video (more below).
- I beta-tested my new “Mindful Self-Hypnosis” class, so I’m ready to offer it on a regular basis.
There are lots of ways of doing (and teaching) self-hypnosis, but I wanted to find a combination that is:
- Easy to learn (a single one-hour class).
- Easy to remember.
- Has a definite series of steps so you can learn it by the numbers.
- Never asks you to do anything you don’t know how to do.
Obvious, right? But self-hypnosis isn’t typically taught this way. It’s easy if we allow it to be!
So I’m teaching a mindful self-hypnosis class in my office, currently on the second Wednesday of the month, for just $50 per person. There are still openings in my June 13 class.
What’s special about mindful self-hypnosis?
- Unlike typical mindfulness meditation, it has a to-do list: a sequence of hypnotic suggestions to help with both general well-being and whatever issues are on your mind today.
- Unlike typical self-hypnosis, it puts any resistance you might be experiencing to work for you: it’s all part of the process.
- We mix effective relaxing/deepening techniques from both methods.
- And it’s all laid out fair and square so you always know what to do next.
You can sign up for the class and learn more details on my Web page.
New Stuff: Blog Posts and Videos Since Last Time
Since last we met, I’ve published one YouTube video and several blog posts:Video:
Hypnosis Hurts Less, or How a Box of Kleenex can Last a Whole Year
Everybody knows that black-and-white, all-or-nothing thinking gets us into trouble. Beliefs like, “You’re either with us or against us” are not only inaccurate, but can become self-fulfilling prophecies. Not because they’re true (they aren’t), but because the belief blinds you to alternatives that are right in front of you.
“In the land of the blind, the one-eyed man is king,” and I’ll show you a simple trick that’s pretty good at bringing things back into your field of vision.
The trick? Take hard-edged, absolute statements like “I can’t,” or “always,” or “never,” and loosen them up:
Turn “I Can’t” Into “I Haven’t Yet”
Often people remember this one when talking to children. The child says, “I can’t ride a bike,” and the adult replies, “Not yet.”
“Not yet” is a magical phrase, from a hypnotist’s point of view, because it admits that the future might be different from the past. No guarantees, but it emphasizes the possibility.
“Man is not a rational animal; he is a rationalizing animal”
— Robert A. Heinlein
“The heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing”
— Blaise Pascal
Imagine a person with the following mental defect: the part of his mind that makes decisions is largely disconnected from the rest of his mind. And instead of being aware of this disconnect, he simply makes up reasons for his decisions … and believes them!
Like everything else, this mental defect has a name. It’s called (drum roll, please): “normal.”
It seems that the “conscious mind” is not doing much of our thinking. Not does it communicate very well with the parts that are doing the heavy lifting. But our conscious mind believe that it’s doing all the work.
Is this true? This is fairly easy to demonstrate, especially with such as brain imagery. In one experiment, scientists could watch the decision-making process humming along in the unconscious regions of the brain. After the decision is made, there’s a delay before the conscious mind learns about it—in some cases, up to seven seconds!
Which is better, hypnosis or self-hypnosis? Some people will insist on sharing their share their strong preferences with you, as with the eternal “Kirk vs. Picard” debate. Not me!
I’m going to consider hypnosis only in the context of beneficial change, whether it’s to resolve a problem or to make yourself even better at something you’re already very good at. There are other forms of hypnosis, such as stage hypnosis, but I’ll talk about that some other time.
First I’ll tell you why hypnosis (with a hypnotist) is the best. Then I’ll tell you why self-hypnosis is the best. Finally, I’ll tell you why a mix of both is the best.
Why Hypnosis (With a Hypnotist) Is Best
You’d seek out a hypnotist for the same reasons you’d seek out a teacher or coach for any new skill. Some people are confident book-learners, and successfully teach themselves all sorts of complex things through self-study: mathematics, skiing, you name it. This takes a lot more time and willingness to make false starts than you’d need if you learned from an instructor.
Learn a combination of mindfulness and self-hypnosis in just one hour.
Mindfulness meditation is all the rage, and rightly so! It’s an effective method with a long pedigree. But it can be elusive and confusing to the newcomer, tied as it is to Buddhist spirituality, which most of us aren’t very familiar with.
As Albert Einstein said, “Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not simpler.” I’ll show you something simpler than mindfulness meditation that works as well or better, at least for beginners. Easier to learn, with fully actionable step-by-step instructions. I call it mindful self-hypnosis.
And if you’re in the Corvallis area, you can sign up for my quick, one-hour class in mindful self-hypnosis. More about that in a bit.
Mindfulness from a Hypnotist’s Perspective
A lot of definitions of mindfulness boil down to “minimizing self-talk.” What is self-talk? Most of us endure a lot of distracting, unhelpful chatter (and imagery) inside our own heads, as we scold ourselves, second-guess ourselves, and generally freak ourselves out. Mindfulness promises to dial this down … and it does.