Why Some Bad Memories Keep Hurting While Others Fade Away

47434667 - beach, wave and footprints at sunset timeWhy do some bad memories stay with us while others fade away? I remember that, when I had my wisdom teeth out, it was a deeply painful and unpleasant experience, one that made me wince whenever I thought about it. But as time passed, the wince-worthy feelings faded. I still remember that day clearly enough, but now it’s almost as if it happened to someone else. The remembered pain has faded away, leaving the memories of the sights and sounds and smells and thoughts intact. Where did my pain go?

Perhaps it’s one of the responsibilities of the unconscious mind to let painful memories go, after first absorbing the meaning of the painful event and learning from it, preserving the learnings and then letting the pain go,  its task complete?

Pain, like unpleasant feelings, has its uses. It gets your attention and encourages you to stop! And vividly remembered pain can remind you not to do it again. But how unpleasant it would be if every painful experience were remembered as if it were happening again! So — usually — we learn from the experience and then let the pain go. Usually. Not always. Continue Reading...

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Robert Plamondon has written three books, received over 30 U.S. patents, founded several businesses, and is an expert on free-range chickens. Robert's publishing company, Norton Creek Press, is a treasure trove of reprinted classics, including Hypnotherapy of War Neuroses, which covers treating PTSD in veterans. Robert and his wife Karen sell free-range chicken and eggs at the Corvallis farmers' markets. Robert's hypnotherapy office is in downtown Corvallis.

Habits Are Made to be Broken … Today

In our formative, impressionable years, people try to teach us to be good children, and even if they do a good job, guess what? Being a good child is the wrong answer, once we’ve grown up! How many of those “good” habits we picked up, way back when, are holding us back today? It can be hard to take charge when you were taught to wait your turn, to hold your tongue, or to do what the people around you do, instead of finding opportunities.

Bad habits hold you back, and good habits propel you forward, don’t they? Who doesn’t want fewer bad habits and more good habits? But few things are harder than adjusting your habits consciously. You only have so much attention to spend, and it’s mostly called for already.

That’s where hypnosis comes in. Hypnosis bypasses most of the need willpower and constant vigilance when adjusting your habits, because it communicates with your unconscious mind directly, in terms it understands, so you start acting on your desires quickly and easily, in just a few short sessions. Continue Reading...

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Robert Plamondon has written three books, received over 30 U.S. patents, founded several businesses, and is an expert on free-range chickens. Robert's publishing company, Norton Creek Press, is a treasure trove of reprinted classics, including Hypnotherapy of War Neuroses, which covers treating PTSD in veterans. Robert and his wife Karen sell free-range chicken and eggs at the Corvallis farmers' markets. Robert's hypnotherapy office is in downtown Corvallis.

Don’t Want to Talk About It? Try “Secret Therapy!”

People in hypnosis don’t talk much, and that means that the less you want to talk about your issue, the more appropriate it is.

When I was being trained in hypnotherapy, one of the things we’d do is pair off to practice our new skills, and it didn’t matter very much whether we told our partner, “I don’t like flossing, and I want to floss every day,” or “I don’t like to do X, but it’s important, so I want to do X every day.” Both are perfectly adequate.

That’s because hypnosis is all about guiding the client through an imaginative process, using combinations of stories, metaphors, and step-by-step instructions to help the unconscious mind to re-evaluate the old decision that gets in the way of progress.

Because your unconscious mind is very responsive to fables, fairy tales, metaphors, and stories of all kinds, it doesn’t matter if I use your real information or tell a story about a different situation that happens to have some similar elements. That’s all the unconscious needs. Continue Reading...

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Robert Plamondon has written three books, received over 30 U.S. patents, founded several businesses, and is an expert on free-range chickens. Robert's publishing company, Norton Creek Press, is a treasure trove of reprinted classics, including Hypnotherapy of War Neuroses, which covers treating PTSD in veterans. Robert and his wife Karen sell free-range chicken and eggs at the Corvallis farmers' markets. Robert's hypnotherapy office is in downtown Corvallis.

How to Improve Motivation and Planning

What’s the difference between someone who has trouble with motivation and planning, and someone who doesn’t, and how does hypnosis help? The differences are surprisingly small, and can be quickly rearranged with the aid of hypnosis. You’ll end up using your planning and motivation strategies to propel you into doing what you should do, while using your procrastination and avoidance strategies to keep you from doing what you shouldn’t — rather than the other way around!

In this short video, Richard Bandler (called by some “the world’s greatest hypnotist” and co-founder of NLP) talks about how little it takes to get these things aligned the way you want them.

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Robert Plamondon has written three books, received over 30 U.S. patents, founded several businesses, and is an expert on free-range chickens. Robert's publishing company, Norton Creek Press, is a treasure trove of reprinted classics, including Hypnotherapy of War Neuroses, which covers treating PTSD in veterans. Robert and his wife Karen sell free-range chicken and eggs at the Corvallis farmers' markets. Robert's hypnotherapy office is in downtown Corvallis.

How Do You Get More Motivation?

This short video by Richard Bandler talks about the concepts that hypnotists and NLP practitioners use to help people with motivation. People claim that they have no motivation, but if they see a hundred-dollar bill in the street, they move like lightning! So it’s not that you don’t have motivation, it’s that you’re not using it where you want to, and that’s a very different thing.

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Robert Plamondon has written three books, received over 30 U.S. patents, founded several businesses, and is an expert on free-range chickens. Robert's publishing company, Norton Creek Press, is a treasure trove of reprinted classics, including Hypnotherapy of War Neuroses, which covers treating PTSD in veterans. Robert and his wife Karen sell free-range chicken and eggs at the Corvallis farmers' markets. Robert's hypnotherapy office is in downtown Corvallis.