Need Therapy, But Don’t Want All That Talking and Crying?

Don't want to talk in therapy?

Some people don’t want “tell-all” therapy.

Therapy is a strange animal. There are so many different approaches, each emphasizing something different. Which one to choose? Some emphasize the conscious mind, some the unconscious mind, some the body, some the spirit. And that’s just one way they differ!

So Why Work With Me?

Of course, there are many fine therapists out there. Why work with me? Some advantages to seeing me for hypnotherapy are:

  • I do most of the talking. This can be helpful to people who find it difficult to talk about their problems, for people who use nonstop talking as a basic defense, and for people in between.
  • Hypnosis is comfortable. My clients use up about one box of Kleenex per year.
  • Hypnosis is a brief therapy. You know there’s an upper limit to how long it will last. My policy is to limit clients to ten sessions. Why? Because I noticed a few years ago that we plateaued after ten sessions, and I want you to get full value from every session.
  • You can get to know me pretty well from my posts and videos. One of the best indicators of whether you’ll get good results is whether you feel like you can work with the therapist. My blog posts and videos help you figure out whether I’m a good match for you. If so, great!

Sadly, most therapists don’t have the kind of Web presence that lets you really get to know them and their work, but some do.

Brief Therapy: Keeping it Affordable

If you’re one of the lucky ones with a zero-deductible insurance policy, then you can do long-term therapy with no out-of-pocket expenses. It just comes down to your time and trouble. But more and more of us have super-high deductibles or no applicable coverage at all. The result is that we’ll pay for all our therapy out of our own pockets. Continue Reading...

Five Questions Everyone Asks About Hypnosis [Video]

Everyone has questions about hypnosis, and these five are among the most common:

  • “Will I cluck like a chicken?” Not unless you really want to!
  • “Can I be hypnotized?” Yes, if you have at least normal intelligence, and you want to be hypnotized. (If you’re seeing me for hypnosis, it also helps if you speak English and hear well enough to understand what I’m saying.)
  • “Is it true that people in hypnosis can’t move or speak or respond or remember?” No, that’s death! Hypnosis is relaxing and people often don’t feel like moving or talking, but they can and do. And amnesia for the session is unusual and easily reversed.
  • “Can I get stuck in a trance?” Not after I say the magic words to bring you out (revealed in the video!)
  • “Is hypnosis the same thing as mind control?” No. Hypnosis alone is terrible for mind control. Sometimes cults or governments have used hypnosis along with more conventional brainwashing techniques, but by itself, hypnosis is far less reliable than ordinary criminal methods like bribes, threats, and blackmail. That’s why you never hear of random bystanders robbing a bank through hypnosis.
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    Practical vs. Impractical Hypnosis

    I had a client recently who thanked me for focusing on the problem he came in to resolve. Apparently he’d been to see a New Age hypnotist in another town, who had taken him on a hypnotic guided tour of all sorts of beliefs and symbolism that didn’t resonate with him — and that he didn’t respond to. This wasted his time and money.

    Hypnosis doesn’t always use guided imagery and metaphor — classic “direct suggestion” specifies the outcome without using metaphor and without specifying the means, just the end: “you are now a nonsmoker” —  but when hypnosis does use metaphor or a guided hypnotic experience, the hypnotist has to use what resonates with the individual.

    For example, some New Age hypnotists use past-life regression with just about everyone. Past-life regression can be extremely powerful, but some people find the concept silly or repugnant, and won’t play along enough to get any benefit. The same goes for encountering spirit guides, or kindly aliens, or Jesus.These things are effective for some people, but a total flop for others. Continue Reading...

    How Long Does it Take?

    Some hypnotists claim to be able to do just about anything a single session. Sometimes they’re right! But some of their clients end up seeing me when the one-session approach fails.

    Let’s face it: people are different, and there aren’t any one-size-fits-all solutions. Hypnosis produces quick, lasting results, but often not that quickly.

    Rather than focus on ultimate speed, I’m looking for broadly beneficial results that last forever. If someone comes to me to stop smoking, I don’t want them to be one of those non-smokers who are white-knuckling it all the time. That’s a heck of a way to spend the rest of your life! I want smoking to become like riding a child’s tricycle — something they used to do, something that used to fit, and used to be fun, but you’ve moved on now and have new ways of having fun that are even better.

    So I pace things for maximum benefit, taking two sessions to work with even the simplest problems, and roughly five for the harder ones if things happen to resolve quickly, and maybe ten if they move slowly. People differ, after all. Continue Reading...

    How do Hypnotic Suggestions Work?

    “Look into my eyes. Your fear of spiders is fading away, fading away. You now like spiders.”

    That’s what we in the hypnosis biz call direct suggestion. It’s what most people think of when they think of hypnosis. Direct suggestion can be very weak or very powerful, depending on context.

    On the whole, telling people to change doesn’t work very well unless you also show them how to change. If you tell someone who has never used a manual transmission, “Just get into this 5-speed car and drive to Miami,” they’re likely to refuse. If you give them a lesson, it’s a lot different. Even if you ask them, hypothetically, how they’d go about learning to drive a stick shift so they can drive to Miami, it might turn out well. As soon as someone has serious thought to overcoming an obstacle, it’s hard to fall back into the previous state of, “I just can’t.” The more vividly you image the process of achieving success, the more energized you are to take the plunge and see it through. Continue Reading...