This short video by John Grinder shows why it’s so important to take the client’s unconscious mind seriously:
We all do things that we wish we didn’t, and every one of these behaviors has a purpose behind it. It may not have wisdom behind it, but there’s always a purpose.
One thing you need to know about our behaviors is that the thoughts behind them tend to be frozen in time. If a teacher tells us that we have no artistic talent, we tend to accept that judgment as a child and forget to reassess it later. This means that we continue to overlook the fact that the teacher was nothing but a bully who wouldn’t know talent if it were pointed out by a choir of angels, and that means that, for all we know, we might be overflowing with talent!
Our limiting beliefs aren’t keeping up with current events, but they effect our feelings and behavior every day. The result is that your unconscious mind is busily protecting you from criticism by applying the old lessons, even though they may have always been the wrong lessons, and even if they were the right lessons then, they’re the wrong lessons now. The intentions are good, it’s just the method that needs to be updated.